How do you know that the way you see the world is accurate? How can you be sure that what you see, feel and think is how things actually are? This is a question that paranoid people often ask themselves. They need to be sure that what they see is accurate, and to confirm this they often end up asking their friends and family dozens of questions in order to make sure that the way they think is valid (validated by the way others see things). I know this because I went through a phase of brief but unrelenting paranoia.
The fact is, you just DON’T know if what you see is real, because every avenue through which you understand the world is subjective. It is based on individual perception, past experience, context and opinion. Asking others only tells you the most common perception. For instance, ‘Is the sky blue?’ On a clear day, most people would say that it is. But others would think more critically and say that it is more gray. It’s really about perception.
So, when we feel uncertain about the world, there’s no use running to another person for answers. They will just give us their own opinions. We need to have faith in our way of seeing the world. This means we need to believe the best about ourselves. If there is a question like, ‘Do I look good?’ or ‘Did I say the right thing?’, we need to have faith in our selves. Seeking reassurance from another person shows that we don’t trust our own view of reality; we trust another person’s perspective more than our own – this way, we lose perspective because we give it away to someone else. Our perspective is our prerogative. Why have we been given five senses and a brain? Rely on your own perception whilst respecting the views of others. It’s the only way to become self-reliant, self-accepting and emotionally strong.
Have an empowering day!