Neither extreme pleasure nor extreme pain can make a person truly happy. Making ourselves feel good about our personalities and our roles on this planet will make us feel temporarily happy because the role we are playing is a temporary formation. The danger with this is that, once the role changes, our happiness will disappear.
This is a world of opposites and we think one side of the coin is better than the other: light/dark, order/chaos, rest/work. One side will give us temporary happiness and the other temporary pain. But are we really after temporary things? A lasting happiness comes when two opposites are merges into equilibrium, creating a balance where neither of the two things can be felt too strongly INDIVIDUALLY because they are in HARMONY. That is why the most beautiful times of the day are sunrise and dusk; that’s when light and dark merge into perfection.
Both light and dark get their individual character from being contrasted and opposed to each other. But when the opposites merge, they create a THIRD CHARACTER: the harmonic character of Source, of God. Yes, God is the Source of our essence and the energy where everything blends, balanced into perfection. Creation and destruction of forms happens continuously. But why? So that God can known itself and so that we can know ourselves as part of God. Through contrast with forms, with individuated energies, God knows itself. When individuated energies begin identifying with the whole again, they merge with the Source once again. That is when true awareness and true happiness comes. So, don’t look to opposites but to the harmony between them. That’s where you’ll find happiness.