Impossible desire
Have you ever desired someone and that person desired you back, but everything in the universe prevented you from being together? This is the exact situation one of my close friends is in. She has a special connection with a man, who wants her just as much, but it’s impossible. The reason why it’s impossible? They were both already in loving relationships before they met each other and couldn’t leave their spouses just like that. They have good marriages. They are also from completely different backgrounds and live on opposite sides of the globe.
So, you’re probably wondering how they got to know each other… Well, they met at a work conference and got talking. My friend, let’s call her Tina, said that James was on the exact same wavelength as her and they fell into a deep conversation. They both clicked with their partners in an ‘opposites attract’ sort of way, but with each other, it was like they were the one mind in two bodies. They were working in the same location for a while, and kept meeting at work functions. Eventually, the truth came out. But they could do nothing about it. Now they are living miles apart, but whenever they speak, the potential of that connection still hits them.
They saw each other recently and things got pretty heavy. They almost spent the night together but somehow managed to avoid it. Sometimes when he speaks to her, he tells her how much he wants her, craves her. Most of the time, they avoid talking about their feelings. Why are they still in touch? They share a way of seeing the world which is very special and it keeps them connected, but the desire part makes it impossible.
When I ask her if she would ever act on this desire, she affirmatively says no. But it’s very likely, that without intentionally meaning to do anything, she could get lost in the moment. I really don’t know how to help her. Is this something she can accept and deal with it if she doesn’t think about it too much? I hope so. She is a good person who loves her life, it’s just this connection which she finds overwhelming.
I wonder if the universe is trying to tell her something by putting her in this situation. Maybe that love is universal and cannot be exclusive? Before she met James, Tina always said she couldn’t even think about another man in the same way as her husband. She was so adamant about true love being an exclusive phenomenon. And she still adores her husband, but also has some feeling for another person.
Sometimes I think that life is a funny game where you end up getting more than you gambled for, but it causes you a bit of heartache if you don’t know how to handle it.
